LOVE for YOURSELF:
This one goes without saying, but if you don’t love yourself, you are
incapable of fully loving others. It’s
just the way it works… So, if you are
finding yourself struggling with loving others, or leading from a place of
Love, begin here. If you’re not feelin’
the love for yourself, dig deep and see what’s going on (or work with a
therapist or coach to support you). But
in the meantime, start treating yourself with love. Stop the negative self-talk. Do something nice for yourself. Treat your body as the temple it is. And if
all else fails, ask. Ask yourself what
it needs to feel loved. Then stop and
listen. It will tell you.
LOVE for OTHERS: Ok,
this is a biggie. Think of all the great
leaders you admire most. My guess is you
can you feel their love. You can feel it for the people they are leading. You can feel it for the cause they are
leading. You can just feel it. It’s one of the things that set great leaders
apart. They aren’t afraid of love; they
embrace it and they use it. I recently
worked with a team of people. And as you
can imagine, some of them were really easy to love, and some… well, not so
much. This was a group that I had to be
a part of, so I had two choices, I could be bitchy and non-loving, or I could
find one thing about each of them that I could love. Since you get what you focus on, I could have
either focused on what I didn’t like about them (and I would have gotten more
of it), or I could choose to find one thing to love. One little thing. And focus on that. The funny thing is, when you focus on what
you love about someone, you actually find more things about them that you do
love. Now this doesn’t mean I wanted to
be best friends with these people, but it did allow me to work with them in a
productive vs. painful way. And since I
don’t like pain, it was much easier to go with love! Plus, if people can feel your love for them,
they will go to the moon for you.
LOVE SHARING YOUR LIGHT:
However you choose to share your
light, love doing it. It could be in
your career, being a parent, a volunteer, etc.
If you don’t love it, ask yourself why and then take action to change
it. Or, what would it take to love it
even more? Luminary Leaders don’t play
small, so an easy way to play bigger is to turn up the volume on the things you
love – plus, it’s way more fun.
L is for Love and Leadership. I love your new direction. Just finished Dan Hughes' book "Haunting the CEO" a parable about leadership coming of age. It certainly fits with this theme.
ReplyDeleteMike G